I'm Too Butch For You

Last night I received a call from this guy that I met through a friend. We have hung out together previously, mostly movies and going out to eat but always in a group. He had obtained my phone number from our mutual friend and has called on various occasions but last night we talked about going out without the mutual friend.

I need to describe him to you. He is a very nice guy. An always endearing, middle-aged, white man that I admire for being so open with his sexuality. He has women tops and necklaces and closets full of long gowns that he wears 24/7 with pride. I'm talking about the type of stuff the Laura Bennett from Project Runway would design.

Well, we meet up at this club that I had never been to before. It was awesome, nice music, huge dance floor, hot go-go boys, and crowded as hell. I will have to say that it is definitely one of those Chelsea clubs. Meaning that there were so many interracial couples in there that it caused me to think of Clay's post. LOL I mean even to the point that at our table, EVERY couple was black/white. But back to my story, we hung out for most of the night and then out of nowhere he asked "so how do you kiss someone that you are interested in?" I was like what kind of question is that?!? Then he precedes to tell me to show him. Later that night, he tried to pull me in one of the many dark corners of that place. I was so blown, I wasn't expecting that at all. I didn't kiss him or go into the back ho-corners with him because he is a little too fem for me. But that has left me wondering; am I being hypocritical by counting him out from dating soley for the very reason that I admire him?


fuzzy August 22, 2006 11:34 AM  

Admiration is very different from attraction. I've had a secret liking toward high heeled shoes, and if i saw a dude with them I'd be like WOW!. But That says nothing about the personality that the person would have. Base your decision on the guy, and take into consideration all the other things.

That Dude Right There August 22, 2006 9:23 PM  

It sounds more to me like you are counting him out for being feminine. Is that true?

Ty August 23, 2006 8:34 AM  

@ that due right there -
Pretty much, that is the case. That is why I feel somewhat hypocritical. I am not sure if it is JUST preference or something deeper that I need to evaluate.

ReddMann August 23, 2006 12:01 PM  

I would have to agree with fuzzy admiration and attraction are totally different.

i am confused to why you are admiring him? is it because he isnt afraid to wear a dress? and if so i dont see how wearing a dress mean you are open with your sexuality? why does gay sexuality have to relate to feminine characteristics?

Ty August 24, 2006 11:09 AM  

@ reddmann
I admire him because although being gay doesn't mean that you have to be feminine but it is what he believes and he pursues it without apology. His in-your-face living based on his belief is what I admire. Not so much the specifics of his belief.

Anonymous August 24, 2006 12:26 PM  

There is nothing admirable being open with a vile sexuality.

Ty August 24, 2006 1:26 PM  

@ the captain
Actually, there is. Whether you agree with the lifestyle or not, the fact that someone has a belief and lives that belief IS admirable. Unlike some people who are on the DL, who will sleep with gay men, watch gay shows, hang out with gay men but claim or act as if they aren't. If the shoe fits.... wear it Cinderella