No Jimmies Allowed

Men of All Colors Together/NY presents:
"No Jimmies Allowed"

A recent announcement from a gay party circuit organizer promoting an event for men of color at which condoms were to be prohibited sent shock waves through the gay community.

On August 4th, MACT will host a panel and open discussion on the current sex scene, with an emphasis on private parties, "barebacking," and safe sex issues. Safe sex, unsafe sex... Where are the boundaries?

Join us for a free-ranging discussion of the issues.

Guest Panelists:
Lidell Jackson (Founder/Host Jacks of Color)
Don Kao (Director, Project Reach)
Laron E. Nelson (M.S., N.P., R.N., Center for High Risk Children and Youth University of Rochester Medical Center)
M. Tokes Osubu (Executive Directory GMAD - Gay Men of African Descent)

Friday, August 4
8:00 p.m.
LGBT Community Center
208 West 13th Street, NYC

Greatly Anticipated

One of my favorite videographers is coming out with a new movie within the next two months. Michel Gondry is truly unique and has produced many of today's best music videos (Bjork, Cody Chestnut, Kanye West, White Stripes, Neneh Cherry, and Wyclef to name a few), produced many of the more interesting tv commercials, along with other great movies (Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind). Plus it is starring Gael Garcia Bernal (La Mala educación,Bad Education). Anyway, here is the info:

The Science of Sleep (, Rated: NR)

Directed by Academy Award Winner Michael Gondry (Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind) and starring Gael Garcia Bernal (The King), The Science of Sleep is a surreal exploration of inner space set inside of one man's dreams. Since his childhood, Stephane (Garcia Bernal) has inverted reality and dreams, and after taking on an overwhelming new career, he begins to try and take control of his dream life in lieu of the control he lacks over his real life.

Website: Click Here

Trailer: Click Here

To see why I am excited, poke around his works at: Click Here

My Addiction

One of my favorite movies is "Requiem for a Dream" released in 2000. It basically is about how four ambitious people whose lives are shattered when their drug addictions begin spiraling out of control. I won't go into much detail about the movie for those who haven't seen it but will say that it deals with various forms of addictions. It deals with substance, food, money, co-dependency, emotional, and sexual additions among others.

After watching it this weekend, I wondered what are my addictions. I actually went to church on Sunday (a gay-friendly one for those who frequent my blog). It was at 96th and Broadway. Afterwards I walked from 96th to 38th street pondering that question. I realized one is that I am addicted love or at least feeling love. When I say that, I mean outside of my loving family and friends. I'm talking about relationship-wise.

In an..... argument on Saturday, I was told that when I become interested in someone, that I cling on and don't want to let go. The sad thing is that I know that it is true. Hell, even My Love Style Results said it. I realize that I try to hold on to love like Star Jones holds on to the last piece of chicken. I even go into dating wide-eyed yet not seeing anything like the diluted pupil of a crack addict. I keep trying to force my type of committment and intensity into people who are contaminated with other issues, like a heroin addict shooting up in an infected arm. I throw myself completely into them with the hopes of making it work. Neglecting or stealing time away from friends, and loved ones and declining prospective dates like an addict that steals from their loved ones and friends trying to get their next hit. Hawking my best intentions of love only for someone to receive it for less like a family heirloom that someone receives from the pawn shop for $10. I know that others view my desperate acts as lugubrious and pathetic but like the addict shaking and looking like a derelict I am too wrapped up in my addiction that I either don't care or notice. When I finally notice how far I've let myself go, I decide to pull it together like an addict going into detox. And just like some addicts, I suffer from habitual relapse.

Yolanda Post

The audio is very low but had to post. Yolanda was on point on this.

Klein Sexual Orientation Grid

I scored an average of 3.62




This result can also be related to the Kinsey Scale:

0 = exclusively heterosexual
1 = predominantly heterosexual, incidentally homosexual
2 = predominantly heterosexual, but more
than incidentally homosexual
3 = equally heterosexual and homosexual
4 = predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally
5 = predominantly homosexual, incidentally heterosexual
6 = exclusively homosexual


The idea of this excercise is to understand exactly how dynamic a person's sexual orientation can be, as well as how fluid it can be over a person's lifespan. While a person's number of actual homo/heterosexual encounters may be easy to categorize, their actual orientation may be completely different. Simple labels like "homosexual", "heterosexual", and "bisexual" need not be the only three options available to us.

Take the quiz

Harlem Book Fair/Creative Challenge 5

My girl delaleuverses sent this info to me. Just passing it on.

The 8th annual Harlem Book Fair will be held on Saturday, July 22, on West 135th Street, between 5th and 7th Avenues, from 11 a.m. to 6:00 p.m. Publishers, writers, literacy vendors will exhibit and author panel discussions will be televised by C-Span's Book TV. Opening the book fair's festivities will be the Wheatley Book Award ceremony on Friday, July 21, from 7pm to 9pm, at the Schomburg Center for Research in Black Culture, a branch of the New York Public Library. This year's awardees will be announced on Thursday, July 13, at the Harlem Book Fair Media Reception, held at Commerce Bank in Harlem.
This year the Harlem Book Fair proudly inaugurates the International Pavilion, broadening the scope and footprint of the fair. Publishers from Africa, Australia, England, and Canada will be in attendance offering provocative and scholarly titles of interest to the most discerning of readers.
The Harlem Book Fair is free and open to the public. Please email to to reserve seating for the Wheatley Award program.

More info here.

Creative Challenge 5

Don't forget to vote on your favorite submission for the Creative Challenge 4. See 7/13 post below.

The theme for CC5 is "Juvenile Style" This theme was submitted by shawnqt. The idea is to take a situation in your life now (i.e. love, rant, family, etc) and tell and/or illustrate it using drawings like those of a kindergartener. As always, feel free to push the boundaries of the topic.

Per request the time period between each challenge has been extended. They will now be two a month. One due on the 15 and the other on the 30. The deadline for CC5 entries is 7/30.

Creative Challenge 4 Submissions

This is my submission. Click on the image to launch. For the cover, I chose a raven for a few reasons. Most people want to associate the raven with death. However, myths from all over the world depict different symbolisms. The raven is not only an intelligent bird but they pair off into lifelong monogamous and extremely territorial relationships. The courtship can involve such fun and games as synchronised snow sliding, and, of course, the synchronised flight test. In the northwest coast region, the raven is both demiurge and trickster, both hero and villain, and often at one and the same time. A main characteristic of Raven in Irish and Welsh myth is that of prophesy.

This is delaleuverses' submission. Click on the image to visit her blog and read her entry.

If you haven't made it to her blog, you are really missing a treasure. This is one creative sister. Thanks so much, delaleuverses, for the idea and participating. I love you and your creativity.

Fuzzy's Submission;

Dear Diary,

I can't believe that I'm about to write this. I am even embarrassed that I actually did this. Let me tell you what my day was like today. It was a sunny humid very hot day in the beginning of July. I had just gotten outta 8th grade for summer break. Anyway, I think the temperature must have reached around a hundred. I really didn't care how hot it was but only that it was hot. I asked mom if I could go ride my bike at Rahway Park. She told me to be careful and to take a bottle, for water. I got on my bike and off I went to Rahway Park. When I got to the park I zoomed down the entrance hill on the bike pathway. I love riding fast on my bike. Once you reach that certain speed and you get this air in your face that cools you off as if you were in an air conditioned room. It felt great! After passing the walkers, joggers, runners, skaters, and even some bikers about five or six times, I got a lil tired. I took that bottle that I brought with me and stopped at the snack shop in the middle of the park. Walked on the side of the shop, the part that is sheltered, right across the walkway from the restrooms. I sat there and cooled off by drinking my water in the shade. I saw this guy; I knew he was from the high school. He was good looking and I was a lil attracted to him. I followed him to the restroom. I looked at him up and down and then left and right upon entering the restroom. I walked up to the non-divided urinals, where he was currently peeing, and started to do my thing. I looked next to me and there he was. It was a hand that gripped his penis like he was going to jerk it. I thought to myself he's got a nice long dick, just a lil longer than mine! Right after I thought it I said it out loud. He turned to me as he was shaking preparing to leave and said, "Thanks..." I was dumbfounded. Speechless even! Then he said on his way out the door in a momentary glance at me, " do you" I had just walked up to a complete stranger and complimented his dick, then got a compliment in return! I'm going to sleep a happy man!

-Da Shi Fu


Don't forget to post which is your favorite (exclude mine). The winner wins a gift from me.

Colors Magazine Notebook

I found this very interesting and thought I would post it. I have the notebook if you would like to contribute.

The first COLORS magazine, written, illustrated and edited by you.
This copy of COLORS Magazine is to be filled with your drawings, pictures and words. Think of it as a COLORS issue where you are the editor, art director, illustrator and photographer. Choose a subject matter and tell your stories, truths, fears, adventures, ideas, inventions, dreams and experiences. Once you are finished send it back to us.

It will become part of the COLORS NOTEBOOK Project that will be exhibited at the Centre Pompidou in Paris at the end of October 2006. Thousands of COLORS Magazines to celebrate freedom of expression.

More info here

Just For Laughs

This is for my PC users

This is old but still too funny
Click on image to view movie

When was the last time that it felt like the first time?

I remember the first time that I voluntarily had sex with someone. I say voluntarily because as I mention in an earlier post (My Earliest Childhood Memories) that I was molested as a child.

I remember that I was supposed to baby-sit my cousins after I returned from helping with the Miss Circle City Classic Pageant. I found out they were going to have an after party and really wanted to go. I talked my other brother into babysitting for me but had to pick him up. By the time I arrived at the after party, I found out that they had moved it. Since I didn't know how to get to the other location, I went back to my uncle's house. Once there the dog, who normally adored me, kept growling. He was a great dane and towered over me when on two legs, I didn't think it wise to be left there after my aunt and uncle left and figured I will just go home. Just then, the neighbor (Tyrone) came over. He had this look that captivated me. He asked me what was up. I told him that I was about to leave because the dog was growling at me and was sure that my brother could hold it down. He asked, why don't you come on over and hang out with me and my cousin. I was a little hesitant but thought what the hell. Over to his house we were watching a movie when the phone rang. It was my aunt. She told me to be careful because Tyrone was bi-sexual. This caused so much excitement in me. I had wanted to have sex (voluntarily) for so long and wondered if this could be it. I laid on the floor in every sexually appealing position I could think of. Finally, he asked me if I would have sex with a man if I were in prison. I thought of some clever answer to allude to the fact that gay doesn't really bother me. About that time the cousin, wanted more to drink and Tyrone told him to go warm up the car. While he was in the car, Tyrone told me to stand up. He pulled out his dick and told me to suck it. I didn't know what the hell I was doing. He had to coach me through the whole thing. I was biting him and sucking too hard. It was horrible. He then got up and begins grinding behind me while playing with my nipples. I felt like I was going to explode. Just the sheer warmth of his body made me shutter with delight. Suddenly there was honking from the car. His cousin was becoming very impatient. Once they had returned from the liquor store, they had a few more drinks and were feeling a little closer to heaven, especially the cousin. Tyrone went into his bedroom for a minute and then yelled out for me to come in there. I went and stood in the door way and there was bi porn playing. I felt as if I could have cum at that moment. I had never seen bi/gay porn or even knew that they existed. He laid me on the bed and began kissing and caressing me. Kissing me on my neck and nipples. I just wanted that to go on all night. When all of a sudden, he reached in this drawer. He pulled out this bottle and began to lube up. I was too scared at this point. I wasn't sure if I really wanted THAT. Suddenly, I thought if it took me this long to find this opportunity, how long before my next one. Maybe I should go through with it. He put his dick right on my hole. I was nervous as hell! Will it hurt, or will it feel good??? He began to slide it in. OMG, what was he doing to me!! He was very gentle. He took his time in pulling all the way in, frequently asking if I was ok. I was so tight that I could feel every vein in his dick. Once in he began moving and sliding it in and out and my eyes rolled in the back of my head a few times. This was not like the last time someone was in me. Then, my mind quickly wandered, where his cousin was. I asked Tyrone and he jumped up quickly pulling on some clothes and ran out of the room. After a while, I thought that something had to be wrong, he was gone too long. I began to try to pull my clothes on. Just then, the door opens up and it is Tyrone and his cousin. I felt like we were busted but Tyrone asked me where I was going. He told me to lie back down. He pulls off his clothes gazing in my eyes as if to tell me everything was ok. He entered me again, in front of his cousin!!! I was confused as hell. Then Tyrone gets up and his cousin who had been preparing in the background climbs on top of me. He was pulling up in me. He wasn't a big as Tyrone and it felt even better. They began this type of tag-team thing on me. I couldn't believe this was happening.

Even though this story was about my first time sexually, I want to know when was the last time it felt like the first time emotionally? When was the last time that you met someone that gave you butterflies? Made you rethink love? Made you forget about JUST you? Made love songs mean something again? Made you walk slower and notice the beauty that God provides, even in the city? Made you more compassionate? Made you want to please them in every way? Made you shutter? When was your last time? I will post mine as part of my creative challenge posting this Friday.

More Artist Opportunities/Events


The Gallery at 3rd Ward is now accepting submissions for a photography show.

SUBMISSION GUIDELINES: Please mail or deliver 8-15 examples of your
work in the following formats.
- JPEG or TIFF files on CD-ROM
- All work and CD-ROMS must be labeled with the artist's name and contact info
- Unmounted/unframed prints should be 11x 14 or smaller
- Include a CV, Artist Statement, image list and estimated price list.

Application fee is $10 (free for members of 3rd Ward) Include a check,
money order (made payable to 3rd Ward) or your 3rd Ward Member ID

You may provide a SASE, though we do not guarantee that materials will
be returned. Do not send original work
All works chosen for the show must be ready to hang.

Submission deadline: July 15th at Noon

Send all materials to:
3rd Ward
Photo Show
195 Morgan Ave
Brooklyn, NY 11237

For more information - Email
She Shootin'! Aw, Made You Look...
Works by Six Women Photographers

Opening Reception: August 6, 2006, 4-8pm
Works on View: July 29 - August 26, 2006

The Gallery @ Harriet's Alter Ego
293 Flatbush Ave
Brooklyn, New York 11217
(718) 783-2074

Six of Brooklyn's emerging women photographers invite us into their worlds through glimpses into their growing bodies of work. From candid portraiture to guerrilla documentary and street photography, the images included in She Shootin' marks personal stations of these women's photographic journeys.

The women of She Shootin' have varied approaches and histories with the medium of photography:

Inspired by myriad themes, She Shootin' are offerings in frames that are exposures of these women's souls.

For more information please contact 718-783-2074 or
Looking for a space to show your work?

C:U is launching a new subsidized rehearsal
annd performance space program. Please check out the guidelines for

We have a limited # of weeks in the 2006-2007 season, so please apply
early and we hope to see your show on our stage. Please forward your
inquiries to

We are also looking to fill internship positions for the fall in
booking/programming, marketing, development and technical theater. If
you know young folks who want theater experience tell 'em to give us
a shout at

Visit here for details on internships, work-exchange and
volunteering at C:U

The Museum of TV & Radio and Studio IMC invite you to a reception with the

I have personally worked with Studio IMC and it is some impressive work.

Beyond TV: New Media Art from Studio IMC
An Interactive Gallery Exhibit in the Spielberg Gallery
June 2 to August 31, 2006

Reception with the Artists
Thursday, July 20
6:00 to 8:00 p.m.
The Museum of Television & Radio
25 West 52 Street, New York City

From immersive environments similar to the Holodeck on Star Trek:
TNG to singing kinectic sculptures and video art-as-toy, this
exhibit envisions the future of group entertainment and
collaboration and demonstrates what's waiting for us beyond TV.

Come interact with the installations and meet the artists who
created them.

No rsvp-please print this invite as your ticket.
Call 212.621.6800 for more information or visit: and

July 4 Weekend/Creative Callenge 4

Info on my weekend is forthcoming. Was going to blog about it until I received delaleuverses idea for the creative challenge. Now, it will be part of my challenge entry.

This week, Delaleuverses has picked the theme for the challenge. It is an original idea and glad she has offered it up.

Here you go:
"I was thinking of a Dear Diary moment. You will need to create or search for a nice cover that resembles a journal and have members write their most secretive entry with the first line being "Dear Diary..."
for example " Dear Diary, I just had the most orgasmic literature ever read to me...""

You can post the entries to your blog if you like and send me the links or send me an email with your entry. After the posts have been received, the community will vote on their favorite. There will be a prize for the winner. Don't be scared, it is not a date with me. LOL Also, the deadline for this is on 7/14.

My Love Style Results

Your Love Style is Manic

For you, love is the ultimate rollercoaster
And you love to hold on tight and enjoy the ride
Every time you fall in love, it feels like the first time
And while it's exciting and exhilarating...
It's also stressful and scary!

Here are my results from the California one also:
You need to bond emotionally with those you care about in order for it to blossom into love. You also have a desire to fulfill the nurturer role, as well as to be nurtured yourself. Any prospective partner needs to recognize the importance of this. So catch a sensitive Water Sign: Cancer, Scorpio or Pisces, and you're likely to be as happy as a clam!