Here are some pics and vids from the last couple of weeks. I can't believe that I haven't posted these yet.
Here are my bowling team members, Matty and Rob.
For Shark Week, the Discover Channel contact a firm to help market the annual show. What they came up with is one of the ingenious and scary marketing campaigns I've ever seen. Showing how companies are using Facebook to learn more about you. Get into the video below.
Shark Week Case Study from Campfire on Vimeo.
This is probably way too much information for some of you but .... well, I just feel like sharing. For some reason, that is beyond my understanding, it had been two years since the last time that I've bottomed for someone. If I had to think of a reason, it would have to be that it normally really isn't my favorite sexual thing to do. However, there are a times when I want it.... and I want it BAD. Now, I understand that in a relationship I may be expected to be.. ummm... equally yoked (versatile) and have no problem with that since I will be turned on anyway by my lover. But outside of that, a person really has to get me turned on for me to consider it and since I typically don't like "hooking up", well, there you go. I think that overall, since I'm not a power bottom, I don't want it to be all about me being the bottom. I need someone else there or to switch to take off the stress when I can't go on. LOL
Well, anyway a couple of weeks ago, I met this guy at the club and we really hit it off. He is smart, genuine, educated, tall, dark and handsome. He is absolutely what I envision as a lover, although you can't tell that from my last several ex's. So long story short, we explored each other sexually and I was ready. I did my thing and enjoyed every moment of it. The problem is when I was ready to flip the script, he was all like.... "I don't bottom". WTF!!! I knew it was too good to be true. He still is a nice guy and we will continue to stay in contact but it definitely has me questioning the whole relationship thing with him. He has suggested that we entertain the idea of having an open relationship for me. Meaning he will be with me but when I have the urge or need to be a top, that I go and find someone. Honestly, I'm not feeling that though.
Last night I attended an event entitled Bloom. This had to be one of the best events that I've been to in a very long time. I'll start with the venue, the Arena. It was the perfect size for the event with enough seating and very conducive for an energetic crowd. There were several cascading levels that made it so that there was a not a bad view anywhere.
The crowd was fantastic, filled with great-vibin', non-dramatic people who were all about dancing and enjoying life. Many of them are black, professional, SGL men and women. I'm talking about recording artists, professors, entrepreneurs, brokers, etc. It was predominently an older set with an average age probably in the 30's. There were male and female go-go or burlesque dancers who were covered in tribal paint spread throughout the club. Live African drumming to the tribal house beats being played added to the experience. I have to add, the music was awesome. I also loved the many African dancers bringing their flare to the dance floor.
There was also live model painting, that's right. Models were on the stage and being painted with tribal paint while they posed. There were videos being played on the walls, many of which I have to find because they really caught my interest. You know I'm a video geek. I definitely plan on being at the next event this summer.
Why am I excited about this new work-in-progress search engine/data visualizer? Check out the vid below.
Download your copy here
I started this on my FB page but wanted to go into more detail. Last night a friend and I were talking and the subject of people who cheat came up. And he asked me my feelings on it. My response was that I don't understand grown people who cheat especially in the NYC area. First of all, no matter what you are looking for, you can find it here. If you want a one-eyed hooker with a wooden leg, five strands of hair on her left side, three nipples and talks like Barry White, YOU CAN FIND IT. So if you want to have a polyamorous relationship, you can find another so easily. If you want to just sleep around, you definitely can find it. So why mislead anyone?!?
I also think part of the problem is that some people are not even sure what they want themselves. I believe that before you go into a relationship with someone, that you should have somewhat of a clue of what you want. Now, I understand that we as humans are constantly evolving. Our ideas, feelings, etc about certain things including ourselves change. But I believe that grown people should be willing to communicate what's going on with them. So if you are in a relationship and you started off really wanting monogamy but after a while, you start to change, it is up to you to bring this forward to your partner, come what may.
The other part is that I think that sometimes people just haven't embraced or accepted that part of themselves. For example, because they know that if you like sleeping around, people tend to label you a "ho". So because they don't like that label, they try to force themselves to conform to something that isn't intrinsically them. This causes them to war within themselves and therefore causing hurt to themselves as well as others. I mean after all, if you are warring within yourself, what will you do to me?
Now, granted, this doesn't cover every reason as to why people cheat but I believe these are two of the most basic reasons. So sound off, what do you think?
We frequently hear talk about how positive gay images are not portrayed in the African American community. Well, here is an opportunity to help change that. I just received this email and am posting it with the hopes that you forward and share it with others as well. We really need an overwhelming response to this.
ESSENCE magazine is looking to PROFILE a gay African-American couple who have adopted Black children separately or together and have blended them into a loving family.
If you fit that profile or know anyone and think they'll be good, let me know by 10 am. Wednesday, Feb. 3rd.
THANK YOU!
Anare V. Holmes
producer@pridetv.org
Anchor/Executive Produer
Pride & Politics
People-TV Comcast Channel 24
Visit Pride TV at: http://pridetv.ning.com/?xg_source=msg_mes_network
Sorry that I've been MIA for a minute but things have been extremely busy the last month. But along the way, I was able to go to Lake Placid for a skiing weekend. It was wonderful. It was my first time ever being on snow skis and I loved it. Also took a ride on the bobsled. Of course there were two professionals that drove it but it was on an Olympic track. So it was very exciting.
Here is a video of one of my trips down the mountain. Sorry that the video goes sideways and is a bit shaky but I literally just attached my cell phone to my jacket
If you were a big fan of Jem, Sailor Moon, and Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles you will definitely want to see this "Where Are They Now" video.
So often many SGL people have turned their back on religion and God because of the lack of acceptance in mainstream religion. Well, Rehoboth Temple is a radically inclusive church right in the heart of Harlem. You can find out more about the church in the video promo below or by clicking here.
I've been in this whole new redesigning kick lately in my apartment. I have switched my bedrooms and purchased new furniture and the whole nine. I'm even thinking about changing out the sink in the bathroom and some things in the kitchen. I just got my living/dining room to where I am content now. So just posting some pics to show the progress. 
Here are some pics from a brunch over at Arden's. I love brunches but because I've been going to church on Sunday and service starts at 1, I've been missing my old gang. I was so glad that Arden had one so I skipped church. LOL, don't tell anyone. There is just something about having nothing to do for the day but to sit, socialize and eat. Let me put it to you this way, it started at 1 and I left around 10. We were there so long that Arden fixed dinner as well. Love ya Arden.
O.K. Some of you know that I have been dieting and exercising to help get rid of the love handles. And I have brought my weight down from 220 to 205 and have been maintaining. Well, today is our holiday party at work and we are supposed to wear suites and dress up for this event. Mind you, I haven't worn a suite in God only knows. I went through my closet and tried on all of my suit jackets and they are way too big for me now. It reminded me of when I was a kid and would try on my dad's jacket. I found it so weird as I have been a 42 L since high school. And a few years ago these jackets were a little to small for me. Today I went to the store and tried a 40 L and it looks mighty nice on me. I know that my clothes have been a bit loose on me but never expected this.
The problem is now that all of my suites either have to be altered or have to buy all new ones.
"Family" returns to Harlem, New York for an encore screening as a part of The Best of QBC Int'l Film Festival '09. Originally in the 2nd Annual Queer Black Cinema International Film Festival 2009 this past October. If you missed the chance this past October or want to see it again, then come out Friday, December 18, 2009 @ 8:00pm
"Family" is a coming-of-age drama/comedy about a group of closeted lesbian friends who make a pact to come out together within 30 days.
What critics have called: "…strong acting and filmmaking."
"engaging and well-realized storylines." "a film that truly reminds us how much we are all, truly Family." METROWEEKLY
This groundbreaking film has been wowing audiences both nationally and internationally with debuts in Los Angeles, Boston, Philadelphia, San Francisco, Amsterdam, South Africa, and many others. It's a true crowd pleaser that features some of Hollywood's hottest up-and-coming actors. Don't miss it!
DATE:
Friday, December 18, 2009
TIME:
Doors open at 7:30 PM | Film Starts at 8 PM
LOCATION:
The National Black Theater
2031-33 125th Street & 5th Ave.
TICKETS:
$10 Get tickets early $12@ The door. This event will most likely sell out!
https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=9641383
GROUP TICKETS available at discounted rates for ten or more e-mail Info@queerblackcinema.org SUBJECT: group rates
DIRECTIONS:
4,5 or 6 to 125th street & Lexington - Walk 3 blocks on125th St WEST to 5th Ave
1, 2 or 3 to 125th Street & 8th Ave- Walk 3 blockon125th Street EAST to 5th Ave (or take any bus going down 125th)
for more info: http://www.QueerBlackCinema.org/
BE SURE TO PASS THIS INVITE TO ALL!
ALL ARE WELCOME REGARDLESS OF YOUR SEXUAL ORIENTATION, GENDER OR RACE!
Here are just a couple of video clips of my Dad and step-mom and my brother, sister-in-law, nephews and niece.
This is of my nephews and niece dancing. LMAO
This is of my nephews and niece playing wwwf. She is such a tom-boy.
Here my dad and step-mom are at a kind of build-a-bear workshop and never realize that it is for the bears that you create. They thought it was for dogs.
I've been excited about Vevo for quite a while. Vevo is a joint ventured owned by EMI/Universal but teched by Google. What does that mean? The easiest way to explain it is that it's the YouTube of music videos. Several recording companies allow their artist videos to be viewed on this site, all in one place. No more going to MTV.com, BET.com and then YouTube trying to find a music video. But even better, to me, is that it has playlists or ones that you can create yourself which will play videos one after another. This would be awesome for a brunch, or get-to-gether. You really have to check it out. www.vevo.com. I was on it earlier and it worked fine but this afternoon, it seems to be a bit slow. Probably first day glitches.
