The Power of Life and Death is in the Tongue

Some of you know that's familiar with this phrase know that it is biblical. It is something that I truly believe. I don't know why God, in His infinite wisdom, placed such a strong emphasis on speaking things but it is seen throughout the bible. Throughout the whole creation process God spoke things into existence (Genesis 1). The same goes for us. If we have goals, dreams or desires, we can speak them into existence. Professionals will often call this the pygmalion effect or self-fulfilling prophecy. These basically say, for example, that if you tell a child that they are smart, beautiful, or talented then they will be. If you begin to tell that same child that they are stupid, ignorant, or ugly, then they will be. Now of course, that isn't an unconscious death but is the death of positivity in that child's life.

With that being said, why am I so afraid of saying that I'm in a relationship? My first thoughts are to say that it is because I'm not sure if this will really work between him and I. So, I don't want to tell anyone and make it seem like I'm just going through boyfriends like crazy. However, I don't think that this is really the reason. I say this because in some of my past relationships I felt the same way going into it but yet told others. I walked boldly into the relationship. Why haven't I done that for him when he has been more than accommodating and working hard to make this happen? Is it because this one seems like he isn't going anywhere? I mean, he's not going anywhere. I've tried to shake him twice. But getting rid of him is as useless as sweeping the dirt on the ground trying to get rid of the dust, he is still there. Am I one of those people who claim that they want a nice, honest and sincere person but when they come along, they don't want them? Am I scared that this one is too close to being for real? Am I just not ready to give up my single life? By not saying anything about it, acknowledging it and walking in it, am I contributing to the demise of this relationship?


fuzzy January 25, 2009 12:03 AM  

I got someone that im tryin to shake too, but i really want him gone! lol haha

anyway... maybe because the last or last couple relationships were not that great or had many great moments? could you be afraid at entering the same scenario? just food for thought. I was just told by a very close friend of mine, that i need to make up my mind! waste little time figuring out why you have this fear...

Nef B.F. January 26, 2009 8:48 AM  

Well... KEEP ON SWEEPING !!!!... :)
All kidding aside... Look in the mirror and tell yourself he's your boyfriend and that you're in a relationship. You have to believe it for it to be true. Just because we say something doesn't make it true. Our dreams and desires don't become real until we believe it ourselves.